They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, which is true as we all have our own definition of beauty in life. But when it comes to hunger, we all have one common understanding of it and that is when we are hungry, we have to eat. But nothing is a turnoff like a poorly cooked meal. I am not talking about 5 star restaurant type of meals, I’m talking basic everyday stuff that one can cook up at home. No matter how beautiful your spouse may be, you will not eat their beautiful face.
The reason why I chose to mention this is because I have observed that many ladies today are obsessed about beauty and glittering lifestyles, while they neglect basic skills that will make them women who can look after their homes and families and many have become terrible at cooking even simple traditional meals. Even guys themselves are getting obsessed over their looks and useless materialism while they lack skills that make them men. Hence I carefully chose the word “spouse” rather than husband or wife (man or woman) because the situation goes both ways. When a woman is sick, the man must be able to take care of things in the kitchen as well as to help her on some days because no one can cook for 365 days a year. Eventually we all need a break.
Food is an important part of our lives, it brings us closer, creates conversation and most importantly, it brings the family home. Nothing can satisfy a heart that is yearning for a good home cooked meal, not even the best fast food money can buy and at times, not even the best restaurants can fill that void. But today we seem to be losing the meaning of this and we have focused on what will eventually fade over time, while a home cooked meal can only get better over time. Food is not just a thing we consume just to satisfy hunger and desire, but it is also spiritual. Hence in Islam we are taught about the importance of eating Halaal food (Clean and spiritually pure food) as food has a big impact on how we view and interact with the world and people around us. But that is a topic for another day.
So, my advice is simple for you: Look for someone who is concerned about having a home and is looking forward to building it with you. That person will invest their time in developing characteristics that will help make life easier and more enjoyable for both of you. Avoid the ones that are chasing after the glitz and glamour’s of the world, eventually they all fade and only character remains. Remember! No matter how amazingly awesome you may look, when you are hungry, nothing else matters but having a plate of food right in front of you and when you can’t cook for your spouse, know that someone else will.
Founder of Yusufs